If you are generally active on the internet I'm sure you've come across the name Logan Paul in recent news. If you are heavily active on the internet then you definitely know who he is and what he does. For those of you who do not know, Logan Paul is a full time Youtuber with roughly 16 million subscribers (although that might be lower or higher at this point as it keeps going up and down). He makes a video every single day featuring his other YT friends doing crazy, wild, and fun shenanigans. Sometimes the things they do are generally fine and other times they crossover into extreme and irresponsible antics. The demographic for his channel ranges from children to teenagers and some young adults but mostly children.

I very casually watched Logan Paul when Vine was still active. When Vine closed down a lot of the Viners had already started a following on YT so I began to follow them on YT as I already spend 40+ hours a week on the platform. I never really got into Logan too much because his videos are just all over the place for me. Some of his videos are funny but I couldn't sit here and name one off hand. I remember him being the older controlling brother in the YT original series "Foursome" featuring Jennxpenn. I began watching the show to support her and recognized Logan by default.

So why exactly is Logan Paul such a big deal? Well he has gone under fire and rightfully so for committing a horrible act against humanity, respect for people and families, respect for cultures, foreign countries, and foreign people, as well as death. Being as big as he is, I imagine he constantly has to set the bar higher and higher. Finding viral and original content seems to grow more and more difficult as so many people have done so much already. I understand that people that high up on the fame chain that are built on a foundation of "shock factor" and 1uping themselves each time have to cross the line to maintain and increase the wave they ride. But how far is too far? Comedians and artists go under fire for jokes, comments, or art that they create that crosses that line of what society deems okay and not okay. So what did he do? Say a racial slur? Sexually assault an underage girl?

No, nothing like that. And while those things are horribly wrong and inappropriate, what he did falls under that extremely wrong category. Logan Paul and his crew took a trip to Japan. If you look at his Japan trip videos, you can clearly see the crazy shenanigans and antics that they perform on a repeated basis. If you think it's obnoxious, imagine how those innocent Japanese people feel? Some crazy whacked out young American man acting obnoxious and belligerent to a culture that is primarily introverted and non-confrontational. He can be seen doing things such as, dressing in traditional clothing and talking loudly and inappropriately at a prayer temple. Everyone else is silent and being respectful and he's yapping around like a hyena jackass. In another scene he is dressed up in a onesie throwing pokeballs at people including a police officer. And sure in the video it seems like the people aren't too bothered or maybe even just confused but according to Japanese videos discussing the topic, the people are in fact upset and bothered but because they are non-confrontational and toss the "foreigner card" to people, they let it go because Logan Paul will be gone soon enough and they can move on with their lives. But little do they know, that this is just the beginning... In another clip Logan Paul and his friends go to a fish market where professional chefs and businesses meet with all of the different fishermen and select the freshest and highest quality food to deliver and prepare for their customers. Logan and his buddies buy some fish and kickstart the engine to their antics right away.

For example, they hopped on the back of a guys vehicle and startled him. He was driving a vehicle and should someone be walking by and get injured or should he crash, can you imagine how bad that would have been? Later on Logan takes the fish they bought and they are screaming and walking around the busy area putting the raw fish in peoples faces, up onto the window panes of businesses all the way to the low low action of setting the raw fish onto a taxi and just walking away.

So you might be thinking - okay I understand that he is being culturally insensitive and disrespectful but how does this even compare to a racial slur or a sexual assault allegation scandal? Well, like many Asian countries, the suicide rate is very high in Japan. In fact, there is a forest called Aokigahara in the Yamanashi Prefecture that is popularly known as The Suicide Forest. It is called such because each year roughly up to 100 people go to the forest strictly to end their lives and this forest has been a place to go to for an alarming amount of people total. It is said that so many have died that the forest itself has a very chilling and haunting atmosphere. If so many people went there to end their lives for whatever reason that plagued them to go that far to make it end, it would not surprise me that such a heavy and negative energy would be lingering throughout.

Logan and his friends decided that going to this forest to "check out ghosts" would be a good idea. So they proceed to enter and walk through the forest and surely enough they chanced upon a body. Rather than doing what any normal and sane person would do, they decided that it was lights camera action time and filmed the body and themselves and their reaction along with some really tasteless jokes. This is why Logan Paul is under fire. If you come to a place knowing that many people go there to end their lives and you have the audacity to not only film them but to mock them and disrespect them etc... what kind of darkness resides in your heart?

So they film the body, make the jokes, and take a thumbnail pic with the body. They had the sense to blur out the face for "identity" protection purposes. So at some point during this thought process they DID care enough to protect the identity but all other responsibility was thrown out the window. So the "Logang" head back to the US all honky dory like nothing happened. They have all this footage and they go OH YEA we found that dead body so we're gonna get LOADS of views.

When they made the decision to go to the forest they should have had it in the back of their heads that there would be a very HIGH chance of finding a fresh dead body, a decaying dead body, or remains/belongings of a body that was once there or a memorial placed by the loved ones etc...

So venturing into the forest and just walking around, okay... fine, there's no harm in that.
Finding the body... okay stop. This is where it is screwed up.
Not only did they find the body, but they decided to film it.
Not a single person out of the handful that were there had a conscious enough to say, "hey maybe we shouldn't do this? Let's leave."
Or when they made the jokes about the the deceased someone couldn't chime in and say "guys this isn't funny, this is really sad and we should go..."
And then when they get on the computer to EDIT the footage after they have had time to process and accept what they witnessed and they STILL didn't have a conscious fiber in their being that told them "we shouldn't do this."
Are people THAT driven by money that they'll shit all over the world for a buck? Yeah... I  guess a ton of people are unfortunately. :(
And the people who "manage" Logan and/or his friends didn't have a shred of responsibility to say "hey guys this isn't going to go over well with the public, you should upload something else instead."
Was their only thought process, "OMG this is insane, I can't believe this happened, the viewers are going to freak out, we're gonna make history, this is gonna get so much views, we're gonna make so much money from this shock factor."
You're telling me out of the maybe 20 people involved, NOBODY thought to kill the concept before it was uploaded? ARE YOU KIDDING ME?

So the video goes up. The world is outraged. The video goes down. Logan makes his sad attempt at an apology. Followed by a more convincing apology that is too late. Tons of people are upset by this and everyone is talking about it. He had the nerve to say that he uploaded to video to spread suicide awareness. I'm sorry but laughing at a dead body, making jokes about the dead body, and not mentioning a single shred of a suicide hotline or prevention info etc...  does not scream awareness to me. I understand that when people are truly shocked by something sometimes they can react with being speechless, emotional, or even laughter because it's just SO shocking that they cannot believe it is real and right in front of them but there's a difference between that anxious and nervous shocked laugh and laughing and making direct jokes at a corpse.

So what punishment did he receive? Well YouTube made an official statement saying that they are going to improve their attempts to prevent this kind of content from making its way to the site. They pulled his channel from their top tier of ad packages (which means less monetization from ads that play on his videos). They also cancelled his movie that was about to be released AND he was also removed from the Foursome show that has a new upcoming season. Is this punishment enough? No. This scandal did nothing to harm him because he is making so much money off of other avenues vs just his videos alone. Plus all of this attention, even the blog I am posting now, just puts his name out there and curiosity will have people look him up and check out his content and people on the fence could turn into fans despite the scandal. If anything, bad publicity is good publicity because it gets a conversation started and it spreads a name around like wildfire which increases fame. In my opinion, they should have suspended his account to probational status. Which would mean when he wants to upload a video, YT has to personally watch it and approve it before it gets published with monetization. As long as the video meets their guidelines, he can resume his channel like normal and if he uploads anything that violates those terms he will get 1 warning and if he violates the terms a 2nd time, his channel would be banned. Some might say that is harsh, but there's no way someone as powerful as him can understand the seriousness of the situation unless the punishment matches. I'm so tired of people making mistakes and then they go under fire, give a piss poor apology, go incognito for a few weeks and once society is harping about something else, they resume back to normal.

First of all, you should have the common sense by now from other people going under fire for things, to not follow in the same damn footsteps. Likewise, maybe have an advisor that can help determine whether or not something is okay or crossing the line TOO far. People are too easily getting a pat on the back after they pull out the "sorry :(" bandaid. Yes I think it is important to apologize. Own up to your mistakes, learn from them, apologize sincerely and do something positive to make a change that benefits towards that cause. For example, because of Logan's screw up, Jacksepticeye raised over $200,000 for suicide prevention.

Logan we can accept and live with the shenanigan videos that you make. I'm sure Japanese people can forgive and laugh at your pokeball antics, the fish market prank, etc... those are all things that don't have a serious side effect on peoples lives, a culture, a country's reputation, etc... but I wish you would have done your video differently. Here's how....

When you decided that you were going to go to the forest, I wish you would have started the video like: "Hey guys we've totally got something crazy planned today. Okay so there's this insane forest that we think is haunted so we're gonna go check it out." Then there would be so montage footage of you guys walking and heading to the forest. Then in a quiet voice you'd resume dialogue. "Hey guys so, we originally came to this forest because we thought it would be cool to see if it's haunted but something happened." And the video would get all serious. "So this forest is actually Aokigahara also known as the suicide forest and originally we thought it would be cool to walk around and see if we could find any ghosts or paranormal activity but because so many people come here to end their lives, we've decided to switch things up from what we normally do. Aokigahara is a forest located near Mt Fuji. We want to give a moment of respect to everyone who has ended their lives here as well as give our condolences to the families who have lost a loved one. We wanted you all to know that we love that we can make you smile and laugh when you are having a bad day. It means so much to us that as soon as you get home from school you turn on YT and come to our channel to watch what we do and it's thanks to you guys that we have this career and life to share with you all. But we also understand that life can be hard and sometimes we go through things and it feels like there is no way out. For some people, they feel this way so much that they want to die. If you are battling depression or if you have suicidal thoughts you can call this phone number if you live in the US and you can call this phone number if you live in Japan. We also wanted to let you know that all revenue generated from this video will be donated to [name] suicide prevention organization."

See how easy that would have been?
1) they could have avoided seeing a dead body in person
2) they could have avoided filming it, laughing at it, and uploading it
3) they could avoid this huge public fiasco
4) they could get positive attention but spreading education & a good cause
5) maybe they could have prevented people from contemplating suicide

When Logic performed his 1-800-273-8255 song on TV the hotline calls went up 50%. If 1 live performance can have THAT much of an impact on people who are in a dark  and unhealthy place, imagine what a YT video that over 16 million people could do on the long term.

Now go back to his demographic. The majority of his viewers are kids. Kids are super impressionable and easily persuaded. I would hope that the kids watching his videos aren't depressed or suicidal but with puberty, getting bullied at school, not fitting in, having any kinds of issues... this could have helped some of them I'm sure. It could have given them the courage to talk to their parents and open up about what they're feeling. Or maybe it could have shown them that ending their life isn't the only answer, and that they can get help and find other options etc... But even beyond that, why would you upload a video about a dead body to an audience full of kids. Why. Just why.

And the saddest part is, Logan Paul probably does genuinely feel bad now after it's too late. But he had plenty of opportunities to avoid this before clicking that upload button. I'm sorry but any normal human being would have been the bigger man and said "this isn't right we can't do this." That is how you KNOW he cares more about the money, fame, views, etc... especially because people will grab their pitchforks and move onto the next big scandal and he'll be able to resume his life with no dings or scratches. So YT did right by stopping his movie and tv show role but I still think more could have been done...

There is an extreme amount of responsibility that you have being an online personality especially when you reach 16 million+ people on a daily basis. I'm not saying you gotta be perfect. We're all gonna slip up and make mistakes. I've said and done things on the internet that I wish I could take back. Thankfully I'm not famous so I don't have an entire world up my ass, but that doesn't excuse what I've done. Everything you say and do as a famous person has an impact on who you are, the people around you, the people that follow you, and the people looking for dirt to end you.

I apologize for adding to the pot of people bringing Logan Paul up. But like everyone else, it weights heavy on my mind and I feel compelled to talk about it. I want to apologize to anyone who has ever lost someone because of suicide. I cannot imagine the pain you go through. I read a quote on Facebook once that said something like "ending your life doesn't kill the pain, it gives it to someone else." That quote has moved so many people who have contemplated ending it all. To the people of Japan, I apologize for the behavior of an immature American. When creators who are young get rich and famous fast, the value/respect/maturity tends to lack in my opinion. I am sorry that he disrespected the deceased, disrespected your culture, your citizens, your religious and ceremonial public areas, your professional and economical businesses and markets  etc... I hope that the people of Japan can forgive his antics and can understand that not all Americans are like that. To anyone who is a fan of Logan Paul or follows online creators as fans, feel free to enjoy the things that they do but please consider that what they are doing may not be right, healthy, legal, or responsible and you should never recreate or attempt what they do. For other creators, please learn from this and do not do the same thing.

To anyone who is in a dark and unhealthy place, I want you to know that there is a place for you and a purpose for you. I don't know what you may be going through but many people have survived what you're going through and I have faith that you can survive and find happiness too. You do not have to live your life a certain way. You should live the way that makes you happy. If you are not happy, let people help you find things that do make you happy.

Close your eyes and imagine sunshine glistening over a vibrant field of flowers. Wind is gently blowing, causing the plants to sway back and forth. The warmth of the sun reclaims its presence when the wind fades and the piercing heat strikes you at an instant. Though it it strong in sensation, it is soothing. You welcome it. You glance to your side and notice a butterfly fluttering aimlessly around a cluster of brightly colored flowers. It seems to feel indecisive as it never remains still on a flower for longer than a mere second or two. You halt in your tracks to observe and admire this beautiful insect. In fact, you're a collector of different species and you've chanced upon one that is rare, beautiful, and elusive. You have no intention of catching the butterfly, but you soak up each second as it grows bored with the scenery and flutters away to its next adventure.

This vision sounds lovely doesn't it? A relaxing summer day perhaps.

Unfortunately, this isn't the type of butterfly chaser I'm referring to.

What is a butterfly chaser then? I'm sure this term exists in multiple forms but this is a term I've coined for myself through my experiences and my observations towards other people.

Remember a time where you met someone in your life and you had butterflies for them?
That fluttering sensation in your abdomen that triggers a tingling sensation, an elevated heart rate, sometimes broken thoughts and stuttering, all because your sexual attraction kicks in.

We're all aware that they aren't actual butterflies and they certainly aren't in your stomach. If they are, I strongly suggest you get that checked out by a doctor and perhaps seek out some counseling. Unless of course, you're trying to beat some really obscure Guinness World Record and/or you have a medical condition or religious belief that requires you to consume butterflies.

Chasing is the act of seeking out something or someone with the expectation of catching them or acquiring them in your physical grasp. Now let's apply the butterflies to the chaser.

Butterfly Chaser - An individual who seeks out the sensation, gratification, or result of having the butterflies.

That is my personal definition of a butterfly chaser in its most basic form.

Too often I will see people enter relationships and end them just as quickly to open up another. Now, there's nothing wrong with getting into another relationship immediately after ending one, but I want to narrow in on the reasoning for jumping into the next one.

Every interaction we have with people has an impact on who we are, what we want, what we need, what we didn't even know we needed. You will always meet people that intrigue you and ignite something within you that other people you know don't provide. I think something that is hard for people in relationships to cope with and accept is the concept that you cannot provide someone EVERYTHING in the world. You can most certainly try your best and provide a lot that will keep you and your partner satisfied and content - but there will always be something out there, that you'll want that you can't have. It sucks, right?

Not to mention, as we grow and experience things, we are always exploring and trying new things. With that, comes meeting new people and shifting our attractions and interests. Perhaps you are content with your lover but you met someone new at an event and your thoughts circle around that person no matter what you do and next thing you know - you're having the sit down talk with your lover and calling it off to go pursue this new person.

But what happens when you jump off the first boat to get on a ship and a sequence of time passes and then a cruise ship passes by your ship and now you jump onto that one? You were perfectly content, in fact very happy, with your ship, but that cruise ship has new features and it's going another direction and you had no problem jumping ship before, so it's even easier to do it again!  Then some time passes and another cruise ship swings by but it has lights and so you pack your things and head onto that one and eventually you realize you've been switching boats so many times that you never even got to where you wanted to go or maybe you don't even remember.

Butterfly chasers are people who get consumed by infatuation, "the butterflies," the temptation of the feeling of a new relationship during that puppy love phase. That portion of time where everything is new and exciting and nothing is wrong. But as soon as the relationship begins to feel routine, comfortable, and somewhat settled down and into place, that is what triggers this illusion that the relationship is now boring and dead and that person  has to move on to get their next hit of butterflies.

It's a mental addiction in a way. Instead of building a meaningful relationship with a person where you can communicate effectively to better your lives together and individually, with a foundation built on support, trust, and love, you have this empty foundation that is being built up by the other person while you are just counting down the days til it's time to hitch a new ride.

I think people with that kind of life style are more suited for friends with benefits or very casual dating and not something committed and long term. It just sets up the other party for massive heart break. Maybe you have the intention of making something long lasting but out of habit you get cold feet because it's easier to embrace a new relationship versus strengthening up a current one.

I think people assume that getting into an argument in a relationship is the sign that the relationship is nearing its end and that things aren't going to work out when really, an argument is healthy (in a certain context) and allows you to really step back and assess who you are and what you believe/feel and what they feel so that you can meet in the middle and build up together and engage in an even better intimacy and understanding of that person.

A committed and long term relationship  allows you to really understand a person, their motives, their strengths & weaknesses, what makes them vulnerable. It really helps you figure out if that person is suitable for settling down in a final form. Eventually we are going to get old, slow,  and unattractive. The goal is to find someone you can enjoy being around or at least tolerate for the rest of your life.

But if a butterfly chaser never reaches that point, when they reach an age or physical condition where they cannot pursue that lifestyle anymore, depression or extreme loneliness may settle in and that person is going to wish they had found at least one person that they could confide in and have for a full-time companion. I'm not saying all people are like this but I think that it's a high possibility.

So in the same idea that an alcoholic seeks out their next bottle of liquor or swig of beer. A drug addict in search for their next high, or a sex addict struggling to maintain themselves in public places, a butterfly chaser is a person who is in search for the temporary spark of excitement and perceives a successful relationship with that feeling and never gives life the chance to let it fall in love, real love.

I think when you're young or inexperienced and you're learning about yourself and the world you live in and what you want out of life, chasing butterflies is totally acceptable and welcomed in fact. But at some point in life, just like "becoming an adult" is something we all settle into somehow (even though we tell ourselves we're never gonna grow up!) Eventually, that cycle of catching the feelings  and flicking them off like a flea will get old and tiresome. If that is something you personally struggle with, then maybe this is the year you can work on that.

I suggest that if you find someone who is more than just a sexual attraction. This person has a soul-deep connection with you immediately and you become extremely close, then I suggest you pick that kind of person. Let them know about your past history of relationships and also explain to them that you want to build something long lasting and fulfilling and you're telling them this so that they can understand and support you and help you through it. If they have the capacity to love you and be patient with you and they see that you have the desire to better yourself, then they will take that chance. You might fight and you might get to the point where you think "we're breaking up" but if you clear your mind and come back to the conversation with a collected and rational mindset, you and your partner will be able to find a solution and continue on your relationship.

In two weeks my bf and I are celebrating our 8 year anniversary of dating and we have both had our fair share of meeting people who we were strongly attracted to but came to the realization and awareness that those feelings were strictly temporary and sexual and through time they passed away. We are thankful that we did not pursue those outlets because we probably wouldn't be as happy as we are today and I think this goes back to the phrase "the grass is always greener on the other side." But honestly, the grass is green on  the side you're on, you just need to look at it and maybe mow it and clean it up.

So to my friends who are in new relationships every month and constantly complain about how they can't seem to find a good relationship, it's probably because you're leaving the relationship before it even has a chance to become one.  Relationships are not instant. Attraction is. Shift your perspective and become more aware of what you are feeling and experiencing versus what you are looking for and work towards that. The best relationships are never perfect. They are built on a lot of time, a lot of fighting, a lot of mistakes and apologies and love is something that grows and gets stronger.

Plant your seed and water it every day. Look at it and appreciate it regardless of its size and nature. But please give it time to grow and please take care of it and it will be beautiful.

Don't be a butterfly chaser... or at least not forever!