Being Low Maintenance/Buying Shit
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Being Low Maintenance
I am a female but my entire life I have identified as a tom boy. A tom boy is a girl who instead of being interested in shopping, make up, doing typical "girly" things, she does things that people would assume guys do. For example, instead of getting your hair and nails done, a tom boy would be outside wrestling with the guys and getting muddy and sweaty. My entire life I have considered myself to be low maintenance. Being low maintenance means not requiring a lot of expensive things, products, regular grooming beyond standard hygiene etc...
I think some people assume that tomboys are automatically lesbians, or women who wish they were men or girls who are dirty, gross and lack hygiene which is not true at all. Instead of playing with barbies and gossiping about boys, I was playing video games & skateboarding/riding bikes with all of the boys in the neighborhood. Instead of wearing cute pink dresses and make up, I was wearing band t shirts & boys cargo jeans & skate shoes.
To this day I don't get my hair done or my nails done. I mean, I like to style my hair & paint my nails but I don't see a point in spending money to get that done when I am perfectly capable of doing it myself. I mean, if you're going to prom or a wedding etc... I could see getting special treatment to look your ABSOLUTE best. But my job makes my painted nails chip anyways so forking over money to get nice looking nails only to have them trashed the next day isn't really a priority of mine. Every time I've been in a relationship, guys assume they're required to bombard me with flowers, chocolates, expensive jewelry, all of the finest in the world. While I appreciate the effort and consideration of treating me and making me feel special I always tell them that I don't need or want those things. I would rather see you buy a video game you enjoy playing than to buy me flowers. First of all, they're going to die in a few days, why not get something that lasts longer/permanently? They also smell weird and you can't do anything with them but put them in a vase and walk away. Sometimes I feel like I'm a scrooge with that attitude but I guess I'm just practical and well... not materialistic in that sense. I told my current boyfriend that if we ever decided to get married he could literally buy me a candy ring from a toy dispenser and I'd be a happy camper. I don't see the point in spending thousands of dollars on a wedding etc... just sign the papers and let's get back to living the same way we do every day. Which I don't really want to get married because it seems like too much work to let the guy next to me know that I love him and want to spend my life with him. We've been dating for over 4 years and whether we get married or not, absoutely nothing would change except for financial things and we deal with enough ready, that's something we don't really need in our lives or care about to be honest.
Brushing your teeth, taking a shower and keeping yourself clean are important things. Your health and attractiveness are important. So just because you're not high maintenance doesn't mean you should slack off on basic things like that. I mean, I'm the type of person where if I had an entire week off of work I could probably go the whole week without taking a shower and staying in my pajamas the entire time and just change my underwear. I currently take a shower every other day and sometimes every day depending on what I did that day. I grew up taking a bath/shower every other day and that carried with me into adulthood. Now, I change my clothes every day but if I were in a situation where I could only wear the same thing for a long period of time, I could do it without a flinch. Some people think it's extremely disgusting to think about wearing the same shirt or jeans etc... for more than a day, but honestly wearing the same pants for a few days isn't that big of a deal.
My point is that it's okay to be different, it's okay to be a tom boy, it's okay to like things that other people may not approve of. It's your life and live it how you wish to. My other point is that just because you live an alternate lifestyle, you shouldn't ignore important things that involve your health, personality, state of being & overall attractiveness.
Something I don't understand about some people though is that they would rather ignore paying their bills and feeding their children to afford expensive cars, clothes, phones etc... and then they go around and bitch about being broke. It's like, if you have money, don't spend it on dumb shit unless your responsibilities are taken care of. Don't buy a Mercedes Benz & then complain about how you're shit poor and you can't afford anything or do anything fun. I understand that we as people enjoy making impulse purchases and purchases in general. We want the things we want and we'll sacrifice paying for something to get what we want for that temporary satisfaction even if we might later regret the decision or end up fucking ourselves over because of it. Fortunately, I have a strict policy with myself to refuse getting ANY credit cards. If I can't buy something now, I don't really buy it. My motto is to pay for my bills and if there is money leftover THEN I can buy the petty things that I seek out and desire. I do use a site called Bill Me Later, but any time I purchase something through that, I pay it off immediately before any payments/interest even begin to collect, so it's like I'm not even using it.
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